A Few Good Men

Let’s not forget exciting J. J. who is a very nice guy. He’s one of the nicest guys a Christian woman would ever want to meet. He comes awfully close to being the Dream. He doesn’t date a lot of women and is very discriminating in his tastes and tactics. J. J. won’t paw all over a woman, he’s a gentleman. He will treat a woman like a queen and make her feel so special. He’s the dream date for the woman committed to keeping her virtue until her wedding night. Unfortunately, for all of his virtues, there is one small problem. You feel like calling him “girl” during your long-winded conversations about shopping, decorating, and the movie Dreamgirls. Still, he introduces you to his mother as his “girlfriend” and you see his father’s face light up with a glimmer of hope … He has potential.

Nah, we don’t make it easy for nice guys, the few good men. But I’m thinking that maybe that’s a good thing. The problem is not in them being nice or good, it’s in our recognizing it, and then desiring it for ourselves. I suppose the longer we take to recognize a good man or even learn to appreciate one, the better off they are – they don’t have to deal with a lot of drama.

Most importantly, they don’t have to get their feelings hurt by someone who isn’t necessarily into quality or who cannot recognize the quality in another human being. It even boils down to not fully recognizing the quality in ourselves as women or daughters of God.

Been there, done that.

The question I had to ask myself was: Will any of my shallow preferences attract the man I need to me? Will Ray Ray, Pookie, and J. J be there when the chips are down or know what to do when I need a spiritual solution to a natural problem? Or will they merely be the cause of many more problems?

At the end of the day, I need to be accepted, adored, and treated with the utmost of respect. And only a man who is yielded to Christ can provide all of that.

The Word states, “He who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains the favor of the Lord.” (Proverb 18: 22) The “good thing” is the God thing, a godly wife or one who lives by and accepts the standard of God as her own. To recognize, and accept a good man, a woman has to be good and godly too. Ray Ray, J. J. and Pookie are not good or godly choices, and that leads me to wonder about those us who choose those types or equally not-good types of men over the nice guy or a good man.